Rose, I really, really think you need some counseling for the rape, itself. Most women are not aware that you can receive free counseling thru rape-crisis centers, even if the rape occurred many years ago. And it does NOT matter if you reported the rape or not.
Having worked rape crisis for many, many years, I truly believe that this type of counseling will help you. I think the reunion with your daughter is exacerbating the anger, shame, and anguish you stuffed down all those years ago when you were gang raped.
Just a thought....
