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First off, I was wondering if you're sure the birthmom did not use drugs or, espsecially, alcohol, only because sometimes they don't always tell. Secondly, does the baby make good eye contact? If not, I would think autism (possibly) rather than RAD, since you got the child as a baby. My advice, having adopted two infants, is to spoil, spoil, spoil, and spoil more. He is probably a normal baby. I'm a nervous mom and it never bothered me to check out my babies, even when I knew I was being overly cautious, and you can always take him to a developmental pediatrician, if you want to ease your mind. We adopted a baby girl from the hospital, and got to watch her being born (she is also biracial and what a little beauty!). It was defilnlitely up there as one of the best experiences of our lives. Good luck with your little lover. Don't let anyone tell you that you can love a baby too much!!! Hugs and good luck.
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Pam, 49, senior in the house
Tom, 47, dh who is my rock
Scott 25, adopted from Hong Kong at age 6, so wonderful in every way...has to be the best adoption story in history. Just a great young adult; never a difficult child either.
Mark, 25, biological, wonderful young adult who gave me a few jitters in his teens, but all is well now.
Julie 18, diagnosesd bipolar, bright-eyed, affectionate, sweet, very pretty, adopted from Korea at 5 months of age
Lucas, 9, bipolar/ADHD combined type/cognitive disability NOS, doing well and is sweet, kind and wonderful
Nicole 6, adopted privately, bouncy and full of personality, outgrowing her shyness, sweet little girl, great athlete
Various animals that helped us heal (and still are working at it)
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