Hi,
I'm the proud adoptive mother of a beautiful biracial baby boy. He's now 6 months old, and has exhibited some attachment problems, he cries anytime I leave the room or when someone wants to hold him or give him attention. I honestly want to say upfront, I'm not sure I'm in the right forum, but I had a couple of issues pertaining to him that I wanted clarification and help with.
1) What is a "special needs" child? Is is physical and/or emotional disabilities? As someone in the medical field, we would clasify that as such, but in the adoption world, I wasn't sure if it expanded into other areas of behavior, etc.
2) As I said in my first paragraph, my son cries the moment someone tries to give him attention even if I'm holding him. Today, I went to a baby shower, and all the women thought it was unusual (all nurses) that he would act this way. This is also the case at church, but in both situations, he adjusted after an hour or so, and when I wasn't in "his face"!
I've been told he's not exposed enough to others, but we are always out and about at stores, walking to the park where there are others, and he spends 2 hours a week at chruch in day care but I always check on him and he's very well cared for, the ratio is 1:1, so he's not getting neglected.
Anyway, I wanted to know if he has any issues I should be concerned about. He also tosses and turns like a wired baby at night every three hours, but I just pat him on the back gently for a minute or so and turn up the classical music and he goes back to sleep.
This may sound crazy, but his head is in the 25% range of growth, which concerns me. He sees his doctor regularly but hasn't said anything.
Birthmother never did drugs, etc. no family hx of medical problems except asthma. Anyway, nothing that concerned me from a medical standpoint.
I guess I'm just feeling like I've spoiled him too much, but I've been told you can't spoil a baby. I guess now that I'm much older, I enjoy spending so much time with him, teaching him things, and I just adore this boy so much. Am I spoiling him?
Thanks in advance for your help!