[RavenSong]

I agree with the other members here and say you should text him on his cell phone. Just tell him you're thinking of him on his special day, and wish him a happy birthday. At least he won't be able to claim that you ignored him on his birthday or that you don't care.

Reunion is so difficult at times. I reunited in 1990, when my son turned 18. At the time, a social worker tried to warn me that it would be harder than it would be if I waited until he was a bit older. I didn't listen, and she was probably right. At 18 years old, adolescents are trying to distance themselves from their parents, which is only natural. Throw in a birthparent or two, and now you have 2 sets of parents to distance yourself from!

I also had to go thru a LOT of teenage crud, including some heavy substance abuse on his part. His parents practically threw him at me, and said they didn't want to deal with him anymore. Anyway, he kind of did an age regression the first year or so into the reunion.

Have you ever watched a toddler walking down the street with his mom? He'll run ahead of her, just so far. just out of reach. Then he'll turn around to make sure you're still in sight. If he gets too far away from his mom, he'll usually sit down on the sidewalk and start crying.

Well, in a way, that's what kind of happens when you reunite with a teenager. They push you just far away enough so they can see your reaction. And then they run back to you, and start it all over again, lol!

You're still real early time-wise in your reunion. Don't worry -- a lot of what you're going thru sounds pretty normal to me. Send the text message....