[nikkianni]

I'm just plain old Mommy.

As for who and when we tell about the adoption, it varies. If we're in the grocery store and a clerk mentions how much Eve looks like DH, we say thank you and go on our merry way.
If we had the same situation happen but it was a family friend that we don't see often, we'd tell them about the adoption because they're likely to find out at some point and we wouldn't want them to feel embarassed. (This happened at church with one of the very nice ladies who's a snowbird so not around all the time)