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Maybe change your perspective on this?

To make it about you would have been rude and overshadowed the shower/guest of honor. And to make Munchkin the topic of things involving people who don't even know you or her, that to me would produce more bad feelings. I don't know about you, but I HATE being the topic of conversation amongst strangers when I'm not there. It bugs the heck out of me. I don't mean a mention etc., just mean everyone knowing my business can irk me at times.

I understand you don't want to treat her as a secret or appear to be ashamed because you are not. Sometimes though, our lives cannot always be about adoption and the things that come with it.

You wouldn't discuss other personal things at a shower either, right? It's not the right time to bring it up, and it's your private business. Same rule applies here, imo.

So perspective wise...you respected the guest of honor, you respected your daughter's privacy and you also know in your own heart how you feel about her. The silent love is more powerful than we often think.

((HUGS))