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I had the opposite. I wasn't really into much openness. Then I started reading some of the anit-adoption rhetoric. I started thinking maybe I should make things more open out of my guilt. I've been struggling with this for the past year. (This place does not help with that.) Anyway, then I read a blog that gave me the metaphorical lightbulb. There was a woman who had relinquished. She said in her blog that infertility was no big deal. She said infertile women should just go volunteer at daycare or a maternity home and stop trying to replace real mothers. This disgusted me and I think it is very anti-adoption. Anyway, some of the other blogging birthmothers who I had been reading(and who I didn't consider anti-adoption) and who had really started to influence me and my thinking about my own son's birthmother thanked her for her post and agreed with it. It made me realize that I needed to stop reading these blogs and stop feeling guilty because these women and I were NOT on the same page.
Peace,
K
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