[dalhal]

Thank you all for your diverse advice. Obviously i have to figure this one out on my own. I think my head tells me to not disrupt my baby's schedule and care too much but my heart tells me that when I am there I will not want to let him out of my sight. The more I think about it the more I am thinking I may want to keep him with me. This time to parent him and bond with him by myself, just him and mommy will be awesome and something I will always treasure. I may even stay a few extra days in the hopes of making things move a little. I will definitely contact the attorney and the facilitator while down there. I am now wondering whether I should ask my agency to coordinate it or do it myself. I have all the numbers myself. I kind of think the agency will frown on it, so I think I will just let them handle the "getting the baby to me and returning the baby thing". I would love to have some kind of really specific reason as to why I want to get together with them that might entice them but I can't come up with anything except for, "here's some money, I hope that helps get my case moving". I really don't want to bribe them as I don't believe you should have to and it is unethical. I wouldn't be averse to taking them to a nice restaurant of their choice. Maybe what I will do is make it a larger party so it doesn't seem like I am just trying to pin them down. I will invite the translator too and maybe her son. What do you all think? I guess i am talking about "subtle shmoozin" that may let me ask some questions about the adoption. I am hoping that we will be out so I won't have to do this. Thanks again for all your advice.
I will keep you posted.
dalhal