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Yeah, I'll agree that her comment was stupid.....but in the long run, this is how it happens so often. A LOT of this has to do with the WAY people make some of the comments they do.
Understand.....in the situation you posted about, I think the woman was just plain ignorant.........and I'd have thought that even if your child wasn't hispanic, KWIM?
But, I know in the years of raising our first two babies (Asian).....and now having three AA babies.......some folks say stupid stuff and mean to be rude and insulting. Others....(sigh)....well, others, 'think' they're being sensitive when they say or ask something......and they're just too stupid to say a whole lot back to!!!
As my Uncle Cy once said in a conversation, "Well, you couldn't insult the man......he had no intelligence!!!!!'
People used to ask about such dumb stereotypes concerning my first two kids (now grown and on their own). One guy who lived near us in another state where we resided, was sorry (and he really was) that we were moving. His additional comment was, "And I was so wanting to see your child grow up to see if it was like the ones from the Prison Camps in WWII."
WOW! And yet, because we knew this guy more than a little, and because he really was upset at our leaving.....that comment (even though SO ridiculous), was really meant to be harmless.
In the past months, I had my three babies with me, and overheard a CC mother tell her little ones....".......see their hair and skin....that's why they don't have to wear sunblock."
And I'll tell ya....she wasn't trying to be rude or insulting. I overheard it....and I daresay, she really thought she was correct and educating her kids!
In those times, you just have to toughen-up some.......and learn to decifer which comments are meant to be harmful, which are innocently said.
Sincerely,
Linny
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