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Originally Posted by MiniatureRoses
I'm up for any suggestions.
I know a letter seems like a cowards way out, but I just dont think I could do it in person or on the phone. I get nervous just thinking about it.
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I think the diva is right when she writes that the truth will set you free.. (<my take on the words)
But I think there also needs to be some judgment calls.. on terms of when do you tell..
I remember an adoptive mom and therapist posting once that telling the relinquished person that he or she is the result of a rape.. can be devastating.. and she said that she thought therapists needed to be near by.. I know she was talking about a person under the age of majority..
But talk about the primal wound.. IMO this at the top..
I think a person needs to proceed with caution.. What if the letter is received at the wrong moment.. when she is in a bad place..
If we weather the storm of reunion IMO we can then.. see and or observe how the other person is really doing without our own personal demons sitting on our shoulders.. See if they are able to handle some real hard information..
Jackie