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Rose,
First of all, congrats on your upcoming grandchild!!!
I'm glad I can help. Just remember, whether your bdaughter acknowledges it or not, she's obviously hurt and probably angry. She also may not have realized the extent of the anger until your reunion. Like I mentioned before, boundaries are VERY important in any relationship but even more so in a reunion. They need to be set and firm as soon as possible. I also believe that honesty is the most important thing in a reunion. (Mine failed due to dishonesty on bmom's part.) As much as you think it will hurt her, one way or another it will come out. And the sooner the better. She may surprise you and completely understand your choice. She might also be able to clearly see why you made your choice and be able to empathize with what you were going thru at the time. Most importantly, most adoptees are searching for answers. And the biggest answer is WHY. Why did you place?
Keep posting here. I think most of us here have some good advice and if nothing else are great listeners. Feel free to pm me anytime if you want to chat one on one any further. Hang in there. Good Luck!!!
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