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Hi,
I adopted my son domestically as a single parent. I can answer your question about looking similar. I think the reality is that if you want a child who will look like you you will either have a long wait or have to adopt a waiting child from foster care after you see a picture and foster adopting brings its own issues.
I adopted my son as a newborn knowing he would be a biracial jewish adopted child of a single mother...can anyone say therapy! But seriously, the conservative temple has been amazingly supportive, his jewish preschool teachers buy multicultural items out of their own money and so far his experiences have been good. I think you really need to decide if you can be a conspicuous(spelling?) family or not. If not, then maybe adoption is not the way to go because even if you match up with a birthmom who looks like you, genes are funny and you can't be assured of what the baby will look like.
Laurie
PS I was adopted as well and my parents were told my birthmom was blond haired, blue eyed, etc. So my darker complexion and hair came as a surprise and I spent my childhood answering why I looked so very different from my adoptive parents...but I wouldn't trade them for the world!
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