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Originally Posted by Gwen Berndt
I'm sorry, line9. Isn't it amazing how much society has changed in the last 35 (or more) years? Today, people don't think it's a big deal for an unwed woman to bear a child. Apparently, back when we were born, it was the worst possible thing a girl could do - as if pregnancy weren't literally the most natural thing in the world.
I have a hard time imagining what it was like back then. But these people and their secrecy - unfortunately, there are lots of us suffering due to the secrecy of our births. *sigh* It's amazing that they still want to hold onto their secrets 30 or 40 or 50 years later, when no one cares anymore that they were unwed parents - except us, the adoptees. We're the only ones they're hurting.
I would suggest reading "The Girls Who Went Away" to get some insight into the times. It really helped me to understand what my birthmother had to go through. You can probably just pick it up at the library, and it's easy to get on Amazon, too.
By the way, did you get this woman to send you a photo, as she promised? That could be helpful.
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Well said.
AFA; "insights into the times;" I know the times were different and I made it very clear in my letter to this woman that I held no grudges and was making every effort to emphathize.
But the more I dig and the less I find, the harder this is to do.
I haven't replied to her yet. She says "my search is over" but remains willing to answer any further questions.
I just want to make sure they're the right questions. And right now, I honestly don't know what to think and what to ask.