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Originally Posted by TheHappyHippie
Hi all, I'm new, so bear with me.
I'm going through a battle with LDSSS myself, I'm an adoptee, and while I will not actually discredit LDSSS (they gave me the wonderful life I have now), I am also trying to make contact with my birthparents, and not really receiving any real assistance. I can't afford the $50 fee for my non-ID info, and to be honest, I don't really want it anyway if it isn't going to help me actually MEET my birthparents. Has anyone out there actually had any success with the non-ID info? Has it helped you in anyway? Basically, is it even worth the $50?? Thanks for any help.
-Aari
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Hi, Aari...
I'm a first mother, reunited with my son Jan 2007. He got his non-id info and searched for me for a long time. I didn't know I "was allowed" to search for him. Finally, in January of this year, I made up my mind that I was going to find him, no matter what, and no matter how long it would take. I "googled" LDS adoption and found this web site (elapsed time = two minutes).
I found the reunion registry on this site and entered three pieces of information: date of birth, gender, and state of birth, and clicked on the search button. I got two matches (elapsed time = two seconds). The first match was from the daughter I raised, who posted my profile on this site in 2000. The second match was posted in 2005 from "an adoptee" who was searching -- and it was my son!
I called my daughter, who acted as intermediary and she sent an email through the "contact" option on the registry. The first thing my son did was to find his non-id info and asked questions from the information he had to compare notes. It was all he had to go on. He knew we were a match when he was able to compare notes. The $50 non-id fee is cheaper than a DNA test, and the information can help you sort out those persons who are seeking but may not be a match.
The most important thing is to post your profile everywhere you can. The second most important thing is to KEEP YOUR CONTACT INFO UPDATED. When my son posted here in 2005, my daughter's contact info from 2000 was no longer good. When my son posted his profile on this site he figured it was just a "random" posting.
When I finally got the courage to "buck the system" and look for my son, my search only lasted two minutes and two seconds, although I had been aching for him almost 36 years. My son said, "It's been a long time coming, but we found each other."
Best wishes,
Susan
