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Originally Posted by Psalm40
My belief is that there is a reason God made families with one mother and one father, and to mess with that makes a child feel divided and confused, not extra loved.
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But did he? Abraham had many wives. In the old testament polygamy is actually very common. Moses (the "first " adoption story) ended up going back to his birthfamily. Had he been a "good" adoptee he would have remained loyal to his adoptive parents.
I think it is important to look at what the research says. The majority of adopted adolescents want the same or more contact, not less, with their birthparents.. no matter how open the adoption is. The bottom line is that kids are only as confused as the adults around them. If the adults are clear about what their roles are the child will not be confused.