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Originally Posted by Scarlet Moon 13

Ok, no flame here.. a comparison.

Are you implying that you love your adopted child better then say, how I love my bio kids?

Are you implying that adoption makes you more able to love better then someone who doesn't adopt?

What is the difference between real or not real mom, and love better because I adopted and you didn't? Isn't that just as mean, or thoughtless to say?

just asking, not yelling or trying to get anyone mad

My take on this...since I sort of understand what Yuna's mom was saying is sort of how I feel too. I think that for me personally (and I really can't speak for her) I know that having gone through everything I have, that I think when I have a child finally (though adoption) I've worked and struggled and toiled so hard and for so long to get there, that it is not a process that I take for granted. There are definatly people in this world that take pregnancy and their ability to have children for granted. I'm sure they still love their children. But I know that personally, I can look back, with 20/20 vision at my journey and know that I will love my children, hold them tighter and cherish them more (even the bio children I still hope to have someday) BECAUSE I've done this journey. Because I've sat in wait, with no power or control of my own destiny...it changes how you feel. My sister and brother-in-law have two girls. Do they love them? You bet. Their world revolves around those girls...except when diaper changing comes. Then it's pass off and hand off, and go tell the other parent your dirty, and I changed the baby last time. I've wanted a dirty smelly butt to rub across my couch and ruin it for 2 years. I want a blow out diaper that is so bad I'm gagging as I rinse out the onesie. I just don't think that people that get pregnant easily, want those things. In my mind, I will love my children better for having had this journey. I will smile down at the tantrums and remember the days when all I prayed for was a 2 AM wake up call.