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Originally Posted by KT9

I think simply replying with "No, I am is real mom" would suffice and get the message across. I don't know the context in which this woman said that, but a lot of the times, I've found, people will make comments about adoption without realizing they are being rude. Maybe this woman has never known an adoptive mom before and doesn't know the "correct" things to say. Don't let those little comments upset you. Just calmly correct the person and move on.

BUT I really like this one. I might say, "No, I am his *REAL* mom, I'm sorry if you aren't (insert your prefered adjective here...I like educated or diverse) enough to see that." Honestly, I do look forward to having a child, but I'm not hoping to have to spend my entire life being a poster family for diveristy, or transracial adoption. If people are sincere enough to want to learn, I would certainly have enough patience to teach them...nothing about THAT lady wants to learn. You would have to live under a rock in this day and age to NOT know that is a rude and really insensitve thing to say.

I agree if they made a comment about his "real parents" or where they were from etc, then that is just ignorance to language. The comment she made was clearly directed at you, and personal, and I think it stinks. She was completely ingnorant to emotions, and being a mother, I just don't see how she could be that stupid. Her child is in danger if she's that dumb, and it worries me there are people out there that are raising children that ignorant. My immediate thought was maybe she made and error and thought you were the babysitter? I just can't believe how cruel people can be.