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speaking as a reunited adoptee. The one thing that i hate my bmom for is taking me away from my siblings. i am the middle child and meeting my brother and sister now is amazing, however, i come home and cry sometimes because I missed so much. When I first talked to my little sister I talked to her for 5 hours on the phone. There were moments that were silent because what do you say to your sibling who you have not known your entire life. My brother and I have this saying, "We should have 18 years worth of conversation but I cant think of anything". We say this on almost every conversation we have.
I know this is probably not helping much. Even though I hate the fact that I missed so much growing up with my siblings, and I feel guilty about leaving them when they needed me, i wouldn't trade being adopted for anything. I love my parents and everyone else in my afamily. I feel bad that my siblings had to grow up with a drug addict for a mother and an alcoholic father, but getting to know them now is so unbelievably emotional that I don't know how to explain it. If I was not adopted I probably would not have even met any one in my afamily.
So to some it all up. I do hate the fact that I had to grow up with out my bsiblings, and I thought about them often (especially in middle school and high school), but being adopted has given me a whole other family. Now I have two crazy families that I love to death andI would do anything for any one of them.
I really hope this helps some how. This is just my experiance. It is different for everyone.
~Erika
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