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Originally Posted by karsonsmom
She was bio granddaughter-birthmom is my husband's middle daughter. Makes grandmom my husband's exwife. EEK.
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Karsonmom, I'm so glad I finally found somebody in the same boat as me!! After reading your post, I'm feeling better about the fact that my husband's ex-wife (bgrandmother to my daughter) acts like DD doesn't exist. In fact, she has been heard telling other people she has one only 1 granddaughter (the second child of bmom who bmom is parenting). Our daughter has never even been acknowledged by her. Now bmom is living with her and has not acknowledged her/our daughter in 2years! She basically fell off the earth. I really don't get it.
Anyway to answer your question, I don't see anything wrong with you setting a boundary and when it gets trampled, being angry about it. My husband's mom did the exact same thing when my stepdaughter was growing up. She never respected our schedule and would always make plans with my stepdaughter, even at very young ages, in an attempt to undermine me. (the evil stepmother). Now the evil stepmother is the mother of her grandaughter and let me tell you, she hated every second of it for the first year or so, until my husband sent a very loud message by cutting her off. That lasted a year and a half and guess what? She is respecting my DH's boundaries (I only see her about once a year even though she lives locally).
Sometimes I think life would be much easier if we moved many states away
