[Indiaadoptee]

So you’re asking what adoptive parents could do within their own ability to aid their child? My advice, is don’t wait till your child is a senior in high school to travel back to the country of their birth! A trip to their country will ease the trauma. Everybody starts to experience their quest for their identity in high school. Adoptees have a deeper level, an almost more desperate quest for their identity, and some questions can only be answered by actually traveling to the country of their birth. Before the adoptive family and child take a trip, I would say dig up those adoption documents, make calls or emails to find out specific names or places in the child’s country.
My main thing is, when the hard questions come that are out of the adoptive parent’s reach, encourage the curiosity! Make it a family adventure to find the answers whether through letters, travel, emails, whatever, but be attentive to your child who is in the front seat of the emotional rollercoaster. Think of it as a unique opportunity to grow closer to your child.

Personally, the trauma of separation didn't catch up to me until a few months ago. It's been a lot of years of questions and emotions that are being discovered now, all at the same time. For people like that, therapy! So there's a wide range of options-it all depends on the child.