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From another adoptee... I'd say tell them asap. I've not searched, and while I have many reasons/excuses why I haven't, the idea of disrupting someones life is a huge one. If I was sure that I wasn't still a secret, things may be different. (and how would that make the bchild feel...knowing they're still a secret) I think reunion may be enough drama, even if it is a welcome one. You don't need to have your other kids mad at you, or their newly found sibling.
I hope you aren't kicking yourself too much. It sounds like many bmothers were told to keep the secret. Since you care this much about the feelings of a child you haven't seen in years, I'm sure your kids will be equally sensitive, even if it takes them a minute to adjust.
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