[dimasmom]

LeeSim, I agree with the others. Meet her where she is at. Find a way to treat her at 13 and 2 at the same time. Find ways to nurture the baby in her that is craving being cared for. Brush her hair, do her nails, rub lotion on her back. Create a lot of ways to baby her. You can feed her by cooking together and giving her tastes.

Letting her sleep in your room is wonderful - you have awesome perceptions of what she needs. Don't worry about coddling her too much. She will move on when she is ready. Once I decided to meet my sons needs (which included attachment therapy) - then he made dramatic jumps in his emotional age. But they can't move forward until their needs are fully met at the level they are presently at.

As you have already been doing, follow her lead. teens don't typically like to sleep in their parents room, so when she is ready - she'll want to move out.

Good luck to your family, DimasMom