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For the most part dh and I are on the same page regarding this issue. However, there are times when we disagree and we have openly discussed it in front of the kids. Not argue so much as a discussion. In part I want the kids to know they cannot triangulate and play us against each other and the other part is just I know if we don't discuss it then, we'll forget later! lol!

If it's something that either of us feels really strongly about, and the discussion would be more of an arguement, we do discuss in private.

In general it might go something like "I just want to add to your consequence xxx because I think...." or "I don't know if you remember, but last time he did this, we said..."