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As a prospective adoptive mother, I can see myself being a little insecure and unsure of my potential child finding someone (their biological parents) that they care for and 'belong' with more than me. But, I dont know how it is to have a child. I feel that when my child is old enough and makes this choice - his/her happiness will be way more important than my insecurity and I will be happy to do what it takes for my child to feel secure.
Indiaadoptee, I was somewhat surprised by your use of the word 'trauma'. I do believe that all of us have emotional baggage irrespective of our backgrounds - divorced parents, not divorced parents who should have, abuse of some sort, addictions - so many things. As a prospective adoptive parent, I never thought that what I am choosing to do is in any way traumatic for me or the child - do you feel like it was a 'traumatic' experience for you? Or am I just loosing myself in semantics?
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