[kakuehl]

I told my son when he was about 14. He promptly told his 12 year old sister. We talked about it a little and then the subject was pretty much dropped. D and I did not reconnect until he was almost 32. (Our first email exchange occured on the eve of our shared birthday in 05. We had our first f2f about 7 weeks later when he came to my home. My other 2 were here as well. Of course all my children are grown, but D was simply excepted as "big brother." In fact I would say that their relationships have grown faster than mine with D. (After all, you can have lots of siblings... what do you do with 2 mothers (lol). I tell D's wife I'm either her illeagl mother-in-law or her mother-out-law.

I have a parishonier who didn't tell her children until after her birthson contacted her. He daughter was angry that her mother had never told them.