[Kat-L]

Originally Posted by Linny

I feel for you. I've had a very few problems with a couple of AA women who are---let's say, over 60 or more years old. Most AA people I've met (and know) have had nothing BUT support for our family. (Three babies at home now, all are AA.)Linny

I've been really fortunate in that area as well. Every black friend I have is super supportive and helpful. And I haven't encountered any horribly negative people. I HAVE gotten some "looks" of disapproval (from older white women)-but nothing major or super offensive. Of course, I live in a very diverse area where adoptive familes, mixed race families and families from nearly every culture on the planet are all living side by side. I think that makes a huge difference. Racism (unfortunately) is still alive and well in this area-but families are changing-and society is changing with it.

"So the next time it happens you dont even acknowledge the person in front of you, you turn to your kids and calmly tell them this is a fine example of what youve been talking to them about"

I think this is excellent advice. But I would add in a voice loud enough for the offender to hear "When someone says something rude or racist, remember the rule about ignoring them and their hurtful comments."