[SeaMom]

Hi all,

I am a birth mom whose child is approaching 18. I have a wonderful supportive husband and three beautiful children. My oldest is now 10, the youngest 5. I left a journal I kept during pregnancy with the daughter I gave up, indicating that I would welcome reunion when she was ready. As her 18th birthday approaches, I am becoming nervous. My question is how do I tell my children about her, if at all? My husband doesn't think they need to know, but if I had a sibling I didn't know about, I would want to know. I wouldn't begin discussions with my children until it actually became an issue, but I'm wondering how others have handled this. The fact that I gave her up is not common knowledge except to my immediate family. Reunion is welcome but would cause upheaval, to say the least. Can you tell I'm confused? There isn't a day goes by that I don't miss her, but I'm worried about the impact on the children I'm raising. Thanks for any advice!