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Hi Miriam,
Thank you so much for replying to my message. I sorry that it's taken me so long to get back to you as well.
I seem to go back and forth as to whether or not to adopt all the time. As I said to Trixie, I've now ruled out Russia due to the FAS issue.
I admire that you and your husband adopted two children who don't share similar characteristics. I'm not sure I'm as comfortable with that as you are, although I had thought seriously about China at one point. I just wasn't sure if being adopted, chinese and jewish and not resembling her adopted family in any way would be difficult for her later in life.
It was hard once again, to be at temple during Rosh Hashana and will be hard again at Yom Kippur. There were so many young children there at the family service and so many families with two or more children.
My daughter's religious school teacher was talking to us after services and when my daughter said she was an only child, she said that she was lucky because no one took her toys. I know she'd like to be a big sister though, even though at times she also says that it is nice that she doesn't have to share anything.
I'm so conflicted. I really can't decide what to do. During services I decided that I don't tell my husband enough what I REALLY want and need, soI'm going to say that emphatically adoption is what I want, but as soon as we left the temple I felt conflicted again. Part of it, I know, is the cost of it all.
Did you go through any emotional turmoil after you made the decision to adopt? Maybe it was slightly easier for you because you both wanted the same thing. My husband is fine with just having one.
I wish I knew how to decide one way or another. Anyway, thanks for reading this and if you have any thoughts I'd love to know them.
Jessica
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