[linda512]

I can't answer all your questions, actually only one or two. But, i am a single jewish woman who adopted after primary infertility. My community has been supportive, my son was converted when he came home and i have heard nothing but positive things about him.
The pain of the infertility has faded greatly. I love my son more than I thought possible. Occasionally, when I hear about someone who is pregnang AGAIN, I feel a twinge, but not much.
I was worried about loving a child who was not biologically mine, about silly things- like would his drool and snot and poop gross me out. But none of that was an issue. I adopted from Guatemala, so can't address the Russia issue.
If you want another child, adoption is an amazing and wonderful thing. I want to stop people on the street and tell them how wonderful it is. About the age difference, many people have more of an age difference than they want.
Anyway, I just realized your post is little old, but here's my answer anyway. I didnt' read far enough!
Good luck!