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Hi Trixie,
I'm sorry it's taken me so long to get back to you. I really appreciate that you told me your rabbi's story. That confirms for me that Russia is not the right place for us. Certainly I know, as I said, in my original note that all kids can have problems but the developmental issues associated with FAS would make me too nervous.
So, if we were to go ahead with this, it would have to possibly be China or domestic. I think the new regulations that China put in place might not make it possible -- especially due to age -- we'll both be 46 within the next 7 months.
I think I'm a little frightened of domestic adopting because I'd constantly be worrying that the mother would want her child back. I guess every parent thinks that way initially, though. Can I ask a dumb question? Can you request what your child might look like, ie. if the whole family has brown hair and brown eyes, can you say that you'd like a baby that has those characteristics?
I'm sorry to hear about the three failed matches and your long wait for China. I figured the wait would be about a year, but I didn't realize it would be longer. How frustrating this whole process must be for you. I hope that you get good news very soon in this new year.
Jessica
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