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Hi wannabamom,
I’m glad people are reading these posts. Hope these following thoughts will help you out, especially since they deal with adoptive parents!
I would go back to India in a heartbeat if I could. I’ve been thinking about my birth father nearly every day for the past several months. I need to go back someday. Even though I am very grateful for what my adoptive parents have done for me, I would not want them to come with me. I’m sure it would break their hearts that I wouldn't want to include them. But it is a necessary adventure to travel without my adoptive family. I need to know the beginning of my story to go on with my life.
I think adoptive parents need to be aware of the trauma adoptees experience, and the necessary healing adoptees need to undergo in order to get on with their lives. Too many books and websites cater to the adoptive parents and the trauma they may experience at the time they adopt. Too few touch on the adoptees who have to endure growing up in a completely alien environment.
Bottom line, I think adoptive parents should encourage their child to go and find their family.
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