When you feel that your age may be a factor, come visit the 'forty and over' adoption forum here! There are SO many of us who've adopted at a much older age than 38!!!
Dh and I are fifty....we just brought home our baby boy a few months ago. (We've adopted several times.........this is the third baby we've adopted in the last six years.) And, btw, we were also parenting other children when we went back to private adoption six years ago.
I'll agree with the poster about being gender specific. We had to wait longer for another girl---and it was the longest wait of any of the children. (We've adopted eight over the last 26yrs). Our wait for our 'other girl' was around 18months, while the wait for our other babies wasn't over a few months.
Don't give up on your hope for another baby. It will happen. You've done the most important thing by placing this in the Lord's hands. Stay strong.
We had a couple of failed situations happen during these last few yrs too, and they aren't fun. Still, keep in mind that the right baby will come to your arms when the timing is right.
I know that might not give much comfort at this time......but it's so very true.
Most Sincerely,
Linny