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Adptive mom here, with a few thoughts: Your mom would have wanted you to be happy, healthy and fulfilled. She knew of your search, and was fine with it (not that that should sway you, you need to do what you need to for YOU), but you can safely assume that she'd still be supportive of you in this.
You don't have to feel bad. It's not like you are replacing your mom. You are finding MORE of your family. If you don't want to, you certainly don't have to, it's up to you. But if this is something you want, then there is no reason to not move forward. It might be easier with your mom behind you, like you said, but now you need to move forward in whatever is best for YOU.
The best way to show love and respect for your mother is to bring happiness and joy to her child. You. Now you just need to decide if finding your birthfamily is part of that, and, if it is, then go ahead, without feeling guilty. Feel free to be you.
Yeah, and a few bites now and again would help, but...
Good luck!
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