[Ktates]

Before you get too set on eye or hair color...we didn't fill any of these things in though they were on our Russian forms. when we were referred DD my parents thought she looked like my dh. The description in the database said blond hair brown eyes....my dh is blond...well she was put on the database when she was just born and the description was wrong. She has jet black hair. So even the info the moe has can be incorrect.

Other people will try and find connections where there are none - people say dd looks like me which is a lie to me in my opinion because I don't think she looks anything like me. But I think people think they are making me feel better (but I feel fine!).

I know my SW told us of a family that adopted from another country and the child's skin tone was much darker than anticipated. The mom had a hard time bonding at first because she felt the child was a reminder that she could not have biological children and she really hadn't properly dealt with that. So she did some counseling and I guess it made a world of difference.

So definitely work through all those feelings first! Best of luck!