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Oh my, I'm so sorry that you had to find out at that emotional time that you had been lied to. But even though you aren't related by blood, your family that raised you, loved you, and cared for you, is still your family. Your parents made a terrible mistake in not telling you from the beginning but I'm sure they did so out of love for you and a false sense of protecting you or protecting themselves.
You had a good childhood - this is not a lie. You have a brother and sister that love you and that is not a lie. You had parents who cared for you and that is not a lie. It is a shock that you only have one person actually blood related to you but it doesn't mean you only have 1 person who loves and cares for you as family.
I have always known that I was adopted and I'm recently reunited with my birthparents. Although I'm thrilled to have answers and I'm in a relationship with them, they are not Mom and Dad. The reunion had no effect on my family - and extended family. My brother and sister are still my siblings and always will be. Mom and Dad (although passed away) are still Mom and Dad.
I wish you peace as you deal with the double emotional shock of your Dad's death and discovering that you were adopted. These forums are very good for getting your feelings out. There are alot of people out there that have been in your situation. And there are many members of adoption triads that are very supportive. You might also want to look at counseling as you sort out all these emotions.
Jill
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