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Originally Posted by KC_photogirl
I am very confused as to what I should do. I was raised a witness but have drifted for about 8 years now. I want to go back badly but have found myself pregnant now. My family is not speaking with me. The father doesn't want anything to do with it and I find myself very alone. I am just so confused
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I think you may well feel better by approaching elders of any local congregation that you feel comfortable with. If your family are not speaking to you, perhaps leave it for now. You need to get as much emotional support as you can, so I suggest that you approach the elders to say how much you want to come back and perhaps only go through them now until you are more sure of your and your parents emotional temperature. Perhaps there has been many hurt words exchanged and neither of you are ready, but perhaps reconciliation is ahead of you. I don't know the personalities of your parents, but I would hope that in time they would be loving and forgiving, but obviously I don't know what water has gone under the bridge so to speak and how raw you all are with each other.
Even if, EVEN IF your parents still turn their back on you despite any attempts to sort things out, you may be pregnant, but you need emotional comfort and support and guidance and HELP. I have seen Jehovah's witnesses that have made mistakes, gotten pregnant - and they have the love and support of the congregation. Sisters in the congregation will help you with your baby.
If by the time you are ready to go back to meetings and mix with your chosen congregation and ease yourself (and I emphasise, ease, as you must be feeling pretty rough at the minute) into your congregation (you choose which one you want to go to, perhaps a new start away from your parents may be the way to go for a while at least, again you choose), then let the brothers and sisters take care of you and strengthen you spiritually too.
If you want to talk, you can PM me and I will give you my email address. For the minute, don't make any decisions about your baby. I wish I'd have had the help of brothers and sisters, but like you I was very vulnerable. Please don't feel that you will go this alone. I have seen the help given by so many witnesses to people that have serious problems with drugs, alcohol, etc. Having a baby and raising your child alone is tough, but you will not be alone.
I wasn't part of the faith back then and when I see the help that unmarried pregnant JW's get, my heart aches, but at the same time, I'm glad that they have gotten the help that wasn't available to me all those years back (29 now).
I hope this helps.