[twyla]

Lisa, I'm so sorry the couple Bethany had approved turned out to be so unworthy of the name "Christians". They certainly don't seem like anyone in my Sunday School class. And I can't believe any one in our local Waiting Families' Support Group could behave so badly, they all seem to be as strong in their faith as Randy and I are.

But in the agency's defense of insisting you figure out the other stuff before choosing a family: Bethany wants to be sure their Birth Mothers are aware of all their other options before looking at families. Their first loyality is to the woman who is pregnant and they want her to be aware of every resource for keeping her baby if that is what she wants to do. This is why they have one of the lowest adoption failure rates among all agencies. They make sure their birth parents are educated about their choices and don't pressure them to do anything either way. At least this is the way things are done in the Knoxville office.