[Elsa Marie]

For those whose adoption came as a total surprise, how is the Messenger treated? Does it depend on the Messenger's relationship to the Adoptee? Does the way they are told influence how they will reacted? Once the Adoptee has processed the information and has gotten over their initial reactions, are they able to forgive and resume a relationship with their adoptive and bio parents? (Especially in an inter-family adoption?). I have always wondered if there is ever a good time to tell a young adult that their life as they know it, is really a lie, but is it better to tell them when everything is going their way?

I appreciate any and all responses. I am trying to get the adoptive and bio parents to see that they need to tell their son the truth.