[joskids]

I'm not as knowledgeable as some on this board but I have fostered a 13 month old that put us through hell that first year, screaming, eating issues. The fact that the agency moved him to our home with no preplacement visits, in the middle of the night, from the only foster home he had known (where he was left in the bedroom with his 5 year old sister for most of the day), didn't help. Over a period of almost a year I worked very hard to get him to bond, it wasn't easy and some days I wanted to scream (or drop him off of a bridge), but with my husband's support and as a stay-at-home mother, we were able to work through some of his issues. We helped the agency find an adoptive family who co-slept with him and he's doing very well now. Take your time, it sounds like your have a very wise babysitter.