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Each person is in their own experience with adoption. While his siblings may want to search, he may have no desire and that does not mean he is in denial or anything is wrong with him. Generally men do not search as often as women. Not to say they don't, but lets face it, men are emotionally different from women.
Do not push your husband to search, he will when and if he is ever ready. Search and reunion is a ROLLERCOASTER ride to say the least, no matter if it is a bad or good reunion. It is very emotionally draining (and I have had a great reunion!). It is something that you need to be ready and prepared to do.
Most of us are from the closed adoption era, thus we are here looking for help in searching and support with reunion. Generally most of us have not gotten family medical history. I had all six of my children before finding my birth mother, I never had a family health history. My OB/GYN was more concerned about MY health history and MY HUSBAND'S health history than the grandparents. Unless there is something that stands out in either of you. Sometimes you can contact the adoption agency that handled the adoption. Mine got a full medical history up to the time of placement and were able to give me that.
Best of luck and congratualtions on your new marriage, I just stress to let this be HIS journey, when and if he ever feels like it.
Carolyn
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Carolyn
"And now I’m glad I didn’t know
The way it all would end, the way it all would go.
Our lives are better left to chance. I could have missed the pain
But I’d of had to miss the dance"
-The Dance by Garth Brooks
*memory of C. Scott Padget, III
"But it's all right now, I learned my lesson well.
You see, ya can't please everyone, so ya got to please yourself
-Garden Party by Ricky Nelson
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