I think the others did a pretty good job...
and then there are:
- Handling the fear of coming out of the Birthmother closet when you have been silent for so many years.
- Trying to fill a void then realizing many, many years later the void was the First Child and it can never be filled.
- Being overprotective of subsequent children because you are afraid someone will take them away too.
- Learning to accept your First Child has no interest in their First Mother.
- Worrying if you made the right decision
- Looking at every child (or adult) and wondering "Is that her?"
- Wondering if the First Child has your laughter, your smile, your sense of humor or the same quirks as you
These are just a few of the things I live with daily.