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Old 09-06-2007, 10:46 AM
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Birthmom in Reunion

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As usual Jannyroo has some excellent ideas. Here's one I wonder if any has run into - how to cope with the emotions relating to disappointment that your bson or bdaughter had a great life and isn't "missing" anything from their life - exactly what you wanted but hard to handle upon reunion when all the negative emotions of your own loss arise. I was speaking to a girl (she's 38 so I can call her that!) in my support group and she is ecstatic that her daughter had a great family and is "well-adjusted" and yet at the same time a little hurt that there isn't the same "longing" for lack of a better word for missing out on life with her. She has lived a "half-life" as she calls it and I'm not sure how to help her. Might be interesting topic as there is additional guilt in relation to her feelings.

For me, I suppose my topic would be - how to cope with bfather/now husband who isn't interested in reunion and full siblings who are without tearing apart the family.

Thanks!
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