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Originally Posted by SchmennaLeigh
Hey Moms from closed adoptions, I need some help. If you have ideas for a topic about closed adoption and/or reunion for the birth/first parent blog, please leave me a short note here. As my experience is solely open adoption, I struggle to maintain a balance on the blog. Since I've been doing a chapter review of a book about OA, I want to spend some time this month (Sept) focusing on closed adoption issues. So, I need your help.
I may contact you for further clarification or opinion on your idea. So watch your PM box if you leave me an idea.
Thanks in advance for all of your help! |
Closed adoption issues -
how to cope with the pain of relinquishment over decades
how to be better prepared when you start a search
how to be better prepared when you child finds you/where to go for advice
how to better clued up as to how you as the bmother will feel, what your child has had to adapt to throughout adoption and the issues he/she brings with them
how to cope with the 80% of adoptees that make you "pay" for giving them up
Having the right approach to a child now adult in pain.
how, if not already a mother, to adjust from being single to being a "parent" of sorts overnight to not a child, but a now grown adult
how to cope with the loss of their childhood.
how to become the "parent" rather than the lost girl that relinquished (or how to be the "parent" & fairly together/collected to the adoptee, whilst freaking out !!! in other words, a good support in place)
Just some ideas, having been through a tough reunion, single at 50 and now with a son who has called me "mom" from the start. We've had a tough old time, but we're through the worst of it now and things are getting better by the minute. All because I now understand what the heck he went through and can give appropriate responses.
Hope it helps.