[Emster]

Personally, right now, it doens't bother me in the least thinking about it. When we refer to N. in Woobie's presence, we call her "Mama N." We haven't really asked her how she feels about this or how she'd like to be referred to, but hope to bring this up with her soon. I want him to understand she was the one who brought him into this world. She really is his mother and I'm okay with that, and I don't feel like it takes away from my being his Mommy. And though I've never heard her say it, I am fine with her referring to him as her son. He IS her son, and he is my son as well. She has never been disrespectful about any of our roles and I think that's where I might have a problem. Such as if she were to try to discount my worth as a parent or my role in Woobie's life.

You have to do what you think best for your family and eventually, Cooper will decide what he wants to call her, and your job will be to respect that, obviously--At that point, it becomes his story to tell and his choice in how he refers to the players in that story.

thanks for sharing and starting this discussion!