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Another perspective
I was recently reunited with my bmom. My situation is unique in that I was not adopted until I was 12 years old. My bmom had four children under the age of 9 (I was the oldest, the youngest were boys - 8,5,9 mos. we were full blooded siblings). She had the strength to put us in protective custody before she left. I remember her care. I remember her hugs. I remember her tears. I remember her love. I have known in my heart that she did what she thought was best for her children. She was my mom for the first 9 years of my life. I was in five different homes (foster and family) before I was placed for adoption. In my 37 years of life I have been blessed with SEVEN women all of whom I was privileged to call "mom" and who were grateful for the endearment. Sadly, there are many waiting children who will most likely never have the blessing of ONE they would call "mom". I don't think it's a title to be earned or taken. I think it's a term of endearment. If an adopted child/adult chooses to refer to someone as "mom" the recipient should be honored and grateful and all others should not be intimidated, jealous, threatened, or otherwise for thinking they deserve it more. Most adoptees are never given a "choice" regarding much of their life changing adoption situation. And when they are, 9 times out of 10, they are resented and guilted if they make a choice that others do not agree with.
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