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I know in my state (Wisconsin) there is an adoption record search agency that will help find bmom and even make the initial contact to see if she wants contact or not and to try to get medical history.
Requesting non ID is also a good idea as it can sometime give valuable "clues".
But I also have to agree with Loveajax. Your husband may not want to search. My adopted brother never felt the need to "know". Some adoptees are afraid of hurting their adoptive parents, some are afraid of rejection. There are many, many different reasons. There are a lot of very insightful books about adoption that may give an understanding.
In the end, it must be your husband's decision. I know some husband's who want to search but its just "easier" to have their wives do it. And that may be what eventually happens in your case. If so, there are definitely alot of people here who can help!
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