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1. BEFORE you read the chapter, tell me your thoughts on birth parent regret. Is it overtly negative, all positive, avoidable, unavoidable, a hindrance, a help, something to be feared, something to be celebrated... or what? Give me your opinions.
I think in many ways it is unavoidable. You change your life and that of your childs only to look back on it a few years later and realize you could have been a parent and good one at that.
2. If you have a specific example in which your regret has either been validated or dismissed, pelase discuss that event and how it made you feel.
I have say that my therapist has been great at validating my regret. Saying that it is a good thing to realize that if my life had been different at that time and not now I wouldn't be dealing with issues that I had long since hidden.
3. Discuss your own place with regret, where you are currently.
Not really sure right now.
4. How does your child's adoptive family respond to your regret?
I don't even think they know where I am at emotionally.
5. Your opinions on why regret, even with the dictionary definitions that explain that it's not SUPER scary, scares the pants off of others.
To me, I think that there are some people who are unable to deal with it. I figure that if they hide their heads it isn't real and it isn't happening.
6. How you personally deal with your regret.
I continue to see my therapist. I do some what if's. I try to figure out where I would be if I didn't walk this path vs where she is by me taking this path.
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