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Originally Posted by full-of-hope
I came here hoping to talk to some adult adoptees who were involved in an open adoption. I have my sister's daughter-she cannot care for her. I have had this beautiful little girl since she had just turned1 and is now 3. I already consider her my daughter and she calls hubby and me mom and dad. My sister has been in and out of her life. She refers to me as mommy and my sister as mommy Nancy. My sister says if she can straighten up she would like to see her every 2 weeks for 2 1/2 hours a visit. How did open adoption affect you? Do you think it is emotionally healthier for open or closed adoption? I know open may be harder for me but I want to do what is best for the baby. I am just not sure what that is.
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Wow, this is so much to respond to. My open adoption was in the family, so I went from my birth mother to my adoptive aunt and uncle. I was about four when I was adopted, so I remember everyone. Given the choice, I would rather have a list of my family members, their health problems, likes/dislikes. I don't ever want to go through the meeting of my birth mother and my adoptive mother again. It was like a catfight, both of them sniping at each other.