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Originally Posted by HOPEFULINPA
I second that..REALLY great post Crick. Hit it right on the head for me and how I feel. It all comes down to insecurity on my part I guess. I pray every night he will always love me like he does right now and if and when he meets his bio mom he won't love her more.
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Dear Hopefulinpa, I hear your fears and prayers. As a biomom in reunion I think about D's amom a lot. One of the things I love about D is that he clearly loves S and she is his mom. Our relationship is strong and good, but not the same as the one with S. (This actually makes me happy, since that's what I hoped for him when I placed him for adoption -- I wanted him to parents who loved him and whom he loves.)
I think it can help all of us if we can remember that love is not like a pie: love expands - the more we love, the more love we have to share. If we can keep from making our children feel they have to choose between us, we will all benefit.