[Vogi2002]

I don't think I would be comfortable with this either. To me this is a deep friendship she is talking about...one of those that I only have with a few of my friends even. Something like this can't be planned...it just develops.

I wouldn't even think of letting a stranger take my child...and it IS different than if you place because your 6 yr old won't grow up with her. Not to mention it might be very emotional to see her sister and spend time WITHOUT you (not have someone to talk to etc).

To me it sounds like she is overpromising things. I don't think anyone realizes the amount of emotion in an open adoption for everyone that makes it hard to "just take a week's vacation". Not saying it will never happen....it's just not something that will automatically happen.

I love the idea of them being like "extended family" but that takes time...and honesty...and a lot of emotions to grapple with before hand.

In the end you must do what is comfortable for YOU and ONLY you. If it makes you uncomfortable, don't feel like you have to match.

I do know of some OA's who are like this...but it's not something that happened overnight (like the kids are 5 or so) and it took a lot of work and understanding. Even with that, sometimes too much is too much...and it still has very powerful emotions attached to it.